from this father’s message to his daughter
That guy had every right to do that to that laptop. FIVE STARS FOR THE BEST OLD SCHOOL DAD…he could’ve sold it to get back the money he used for the software he used on it before finding that post but thats not the point.
The point is that all you kids who have ipods/iphones, laptops, consoles, and flat screens that are from your parents be greatful.
IT DOES NOT FUCKING HURT TO DO CHORES AROUND THE FUCKIN’ HOUSE[That your parents most likley PAYING FOR]. SHIT! I Love my mama ad she was already working like 2 jobs! I PAYED FOR MY OWN FUCKING PS2 BY WORKING ODD JOBS AT THE AGE OF 12. saving my own lunch money too. Then when my mom finally got me my first iPod[the fucking small ass shuffle] YOU BEST BELIEVE I DID CHORES LIKE A MUTHUHFUCKUH!
So next time you talk shit about your parents THINK AGAIn and remember ALL THE SHIT that they payed for because YOU wanted it……spoiled lil shits…..
DAMN….Cant stand spoiled people…
If he believes this was the right thing to do, I support it. Children have become spoiled and sometimes need some hard lessons to learn from.
BEST EXAMPLE OF PARENTING.
LOL THIS CHILD. I had to do pretty much ALL of those chores and others. It’s called helping your damn parents because they put a roof over your head and feed your ass. The only money I got until I was 16 was for lunch money and a minimum allowance that was usually about $10 a week, and that was IFFFF my mother had extra cash.
I hate to sound like a jaded old lady at the age of 23, but kids these days are spoiled as shit.
Unpopular opinion time:
This is not ok.
If you have fucked up so badly at parenting that your kid is making posts like the above, property destruction and implied violence aren’t appropriate responses. This is not how functional adult people behave.
Hannah, in the video, doesn’t respect her father.
Given that her father invades her privacy, undermines her personal agency, and doesn’t have basic trust for her….I fully comprehend why she doesn’t. Respect is earned and taught. If Hannah posts giant, frustrated rants about her chore load, it probably implies that she doesn’t feel that her efforts are appreciated or that she’s an integral member of the family or household (alienation and over individuation is a huge problem for teens; it’s part of the formation of adult identity separate from parents and kind of a huge trap.
Teenagers are frustrated because their lives are absurd. They’re expected to have adult behavior with no adult agency. Maturity and decision making are learned skills. If parents don’t like the way their teens are behaving, they need to ask themselves where that behavior was learned. If she feels entitled, what have you been doing -her entire life- to communicate the real value of what she has and should be grateful for? If she refers to the woman who cleans for you as ‘the cleaning lady’ is that because she’s noted that you treat that woman that way? Asking for payment for work is not unreasonable; it’s an understanding of capitalism. A less asshat response than ‘are you out of your mind’ would be a basic rundown of the costs of the household in terms of food, heating, etc and what percentage of that Hannah should reasonably be responsible for. Given that she has no economic agency of her own, expressing to her that her chores are a means of repayment for that.
I grew up -poor- and my parents were still giving me an allowance by the time I was ten because that’s how you teach kids how to manage earned income. I received a dollar a week (upgraded to five dollars a week when I was 12) for completing a list of chores. If they weren’t done, I didn’t get paid. Just like you don’t get paid at a job if you don’t show up. My parents also stopped buying luxury items for me around that age and made me buy them myself with earned and saved income from my chores, babysitting, recycling cans, making crafts and selling them, whatever. My parents helped me find jobs and gave me suggestions about what I could so to earn money. If Hannah is fifteen, she cannot legally obtain most forms of employment; has she been educated as to what economic opportunities are available to her? Because as a parent EDUCATING HER IS, IN FACT, YOUR JOB. You got her an application and made her apply? Did you take her with you and teach her the process of how to obtain applications and where to look for places that are hiring? Did you make sure the place you got the application from accepts underage employees (most do not) or walk her through the application process in terms of how to make herself an attractive applicant?
‘When I was your age I’d moved out of the house, lived on my own, went to college while in highschool, worked two jobs, was a volunteer fireman’…. Uh….huh. And you didn’t manage to impart any of this work ethic on your children, apparently. Also: You grew up in a very different economy, as a man. I’m willing to bet you had parents or other helpful adults who made you aware of the opportunities available to you. You are judging your daughter for having a different outcome than you had, when she sure as shit didn’t have the same input.
Hannah is acting out in the most trivial of ways: Ranting and commiserating with friends. and even THAT outlet is being denied her. All the people above who liked and lauded this: Would you think it was awesome if Hanna was an adult woman who’d posted a frustrated rant about her significant other, and this was the significant other’s response? Or would you consider this to be emotional abuse and a redflag for accelerating relationship violence? Because that’s what this is: Emotional abuse. This is abusive parenting (looks like it’s in the wake of/a response to earlier emotionally negligent parenting, too).
If your kid is a spoiled brat? It is not the kid’s fault. Kids aren’t born spoiled brats. Parental behavior causes this. This man is reaping the seeds he has sewn, and because he’s unsatisfied with what his efforts have yielded, he’s responding with aggression and punishment and social humiliation.
That is -fucked up-. You are a -shitty parent-. You are not training your child to be a functional adult. If you child lacks life skills, if your child does not respect you, if your child cannot think critically or understand the value of money or comprehend the importance of maintaining a household THAT IS YOUR FUCKING FAULT. This kind of extreme behavior is SERIOUSLY too little too late, and an act of aggressive desperation because YOU FUCKED UP.
If I were advising Hannah in this situation? I’d be helping her figure out ways to get the fuck away from these people and hook her up with resources that would teach her actual life skills.
Worth noting? This dude is shooting in what is clearly a residential area. That is unsound (though not necessarily criminal in his locality) behavior. This is not something to be celebrated. Property destruction and implied violence are not things to be celebrated. Emotional abuse in response to shitty teen behavior that results from bad parenting in the first place is not something to be celebrated.
This whole fucking family needs to get to family counseling STAT.
YES GOOD THANK YOU.
At first I thought it was just some dude frustrated at his laptop, but then I read the comments and was fucking appalled.
This guy (and this family) has some serious god damn issues that have absolutely nothing to do with their teenager being on the internet and not doing chores.
YES, THANK YOU. Ugh. This seriously bugged the crap out of me and I’m so glad someone was able to put it to words so eloquently.