Contact: nykollenyx@gmail.com
Things I like:
The Social Network, BBC Sherlock, Supernatural, Glee, Avatar: The Last Airbender, Pokemon, Naruto, Ookiku Furikabutte, The Avengers, Disney, Harry Potter, Sherlock Holmes, Aitsu no Daihonmei, The Amazing Spiderman, The Hunger Games
These Lovely Ladies, Andrew Garfield, Jennifer Lawrence, Scarlett Johansson, Misha Collins, Jesse Eisenberg
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Seriously though, “lesbian porn” is marketed towards men. I’ve laughed and cried and screamed, “WHY WOULD YOU DO THAT?!” at the shit that I’ve seen. Not sexy, and also not real.
“Mother,” I slowly repeated in Korean. “I am not a boy. I am a girl. I am transgender.” My face reddened, and tears blurred my vision. I braced myself for her rejection and the end to a relationship that had only begun.
Silence again filled the room. I searched my mother’s eyes for any signs of shock, disgust or sadness. But a serene expression lined her face as she sat with ease on the couch. I started to worry that my words had been lost in translation. Then my mother began to speak.
“Mommy knew,” she said calmly through my friend, who looked just as dumbfounded as I was by her response. “I was waiting for you to tell me.”
“What? How?”
“Birth dream,” my mother replied. In Korea some pregnant women still believe that dreams offer a hint about the gender of their unborn child. “I had dreams for each of your siblings, but I had no dream for you. Your gender was always a mystery to me.”
I wanted to reply but didn’t know where to begin. My mother instead continued to speak for both of us. “Hyun-gi,” she said, stroking my head. “You are beautiful and precious. I thought I gave birth to a son, but it is OK. I have a daughter instead.”
"Andy Marra, The Beautiful Daughter: How My Korean Mother Gave Me the Courage to Transition
such a beautiful story. as a queer person, waiting is filled with anxiety about what to say, how much of myself and my life would i be able to reveal? the fear of rejection is so huge, but i also desperately want my family to know me, my life, my trials, my triumphs.
i just want to look into someone’s eyes and see myself, feel like i look like someone, like i can see where i came from. i want to know if i am an oppa or hyung.
i want to know if i had a name.
i have heard all the stories, all the possibilities from bad to good that can happen when you find your birth family. but this…this is the best. the absolute best.
(via glittergeek)
This gave me chills. This is wonderful.
(via strugglingtobeheard)
This is such an incredible story. I wish every trans person could have this support from their family. Warning though, I definitely got misty with this story.
(via stfusexists)
WOW THIS IS REALLY NICE
This is pretty much exactly what happened with me and a friend. I was like, “Yeah, I know. So anyway…”
![fuckyeahsexeducation:
retrogradewaters:
nextmorgothidol:
metapianycist:
[A complicated Venn diagram depicting multiple overlapping categories of features regarded as constituting “biological sex,” meant to illustrate that sex is not nearly as binary as many people like to think.]
#holy shit this appeared in my dash and I thought it was modern art but no it’s freaking sex!
YES
For everyone who thinks sex is only about “vaginas” and “penises” (especially those who use it against trans* and intersex folk)](http://25.media.tumblr.com/tumblr_m7o6crJtND1qd7nwao1_500.png)
[A complicated Venn diagram depicting multiple overlapping categories of features regarded as constituting “biological sex,” meant to illustrate that sex is not nearly as binary as many people like to think.]
#holy shit this appeared in my dash and I thought it was modern art but no it’s freaking sex!
YES
For everyone who thinks sex is only about “vaginas” and “penises” (especially those who use it against trans* and intersex folk)
highlanderhufflepuffhugmachine:
Fox News headlines v. real headlines, part 2425183.
The brunette part is really important.
1. Woooo You go Mary Gonzalez! Fuck yeah!
2. Oh Fuck you Fox News.
Holla to Mary Gonzalez for coming out as Pansexual in such a bigoted state as Texas. God speed to you, people aren’t friendly here.
Is it lame that I feel all teary because of this?
There’s a lot of information out there about how to find a gay-friendly university - but what about transgender-friendly? Campus Pride’s got your back.
They’ve compiled a list of the 10 best schools for trans students, using information about schools’ trans-inclusive nondiscrimination policies, gender neutral facilities, procedures for official name and gender marker changes, recognizing trans people on official forms and covering hormones and surgery in student health insurance.
The full list, in alphabetical order:
- Ithaca College
- NYU
- Princeton University
- UCLA
- UC Riverside
- University of Massachusetts, Amherst
- University of Michigan, Ann Arbor
- University of Oregon
- University of Pennsylvania
- University of Vermont
You can learn more about each individual school at the link above. Does anyone go to any of these schools who can talk about their experience? Anybody go to a school that’s not on the list that is particularly trans-friendly?
What Has Happened Since New York Legalized Gay Marriage.
Literally sobbing at the beautiful.
I’m crying SO HARD right now.
*blubber* Oh gosh, so much happy in one go! Overwhelmingly beautiful!
LGBTQ* News You Might Have Missed
(Following from ABC News)
Jim Henson’s Muppets Split With Chick-Fil-A Over Gay Rights
Customers going to Chick-fil-A in search of a Muppets-inspired toy along with their Chick-n-Strips will be greatly disappointed. The toys are no more. The Jim Henson Company, founded by the creator of The Muppets, has severed all ties with Chick-fil-A and announced on its Facebook page that “we do not wish to partner with them on any future endeavors.”
The Jim Henson Company had formed a partnership with Chick-fil-A at the beginning of summer in order to feature Jim Henson’s Creature Shop toys in kids’ meals from July until Aug. 18. Then, Chick-fil-A’s president, Dan McCarthy, announced his support of Christian organizations that oppose gay marriage.
In an interview with The Baptist Press earlier this month, McCarthy was upfront: “We are very much supportive of the family — the biblical definition of the family unit. We are a family-owned business, a family-led business, and we are married to our first wives. We give God thanks for that,” said McCarthy.
A report from the LGBT advocacy group Equality Matters said that Chick-fil-A donated more than $3 million from 2003 to 2009 to Christian groups that oppose homosexuality. The company then escalated its donations, giving $2 million to such causes in 2010 alone, according to Equality Matters.
On its Facebook page, The Jim Henson Company mentions its CEO, Lisa Henson, as a “strong supporter of gay marriage.”
Do you see this?
Do you see the number of things that are WRONG with this?
The fake slur, the beat up face, the TAG LINE.
You know what this movie is? It’s speaking to every single fucking straightie (yes I just made that word up and it implies exactly the correct tone of condescension that I need right now) who feels ~*so*~ oppressed by queer people, ~*so victimized*~, and most importantly so threatened by our existence, by our refusal to shut up, by our refusal to disappear, by our insistence on our rights, by our celebration of ourselves. Well fuck you.
And don’t even get me started on the tag line. “How would you live if you couldn’t love?” I wonder— OH WAIT. OH. FUCKING. WAIT. WOW. GEE. I JUST HAVE NO IDEA IT’S NOT LIKE THAT’S ACTUALLY HAPPENING RIGHT NOW TO REAL PEOPLE.
Fuck.
I’m so fucking incensed. Maybe you should feel threatened. Maybe queer people are coming for you. We’re coming for your cushy straight heteronormative lifestyle and nothing about your shitty world is ever going to be the same.
I’m not trying to defend this because if that is the intentions, that is so fucked up.
But I think it’s trying to encourage empathy from straight people. Making the characters straight supposedly make them more relateable. It’s trying to force straight people into our uncomfortably tight shoes.
It’s trying to make people see how fucking extreme and RIDICULOUS our struggles are because it’s easy to dismiss when it’s happening to some “other” type of person, it’s not so easy to when happens to someone just like “them.”
It’s trying to force straight people into being considerate.
I’ve seen a short with this EXACT premise before SHOWN ON LOGO, THE QUEER TV STATION.
It’s inverting a trope to demonstrate how ridiculous and awful it is that it happens.
JC Penney’s new ad for Father’s Day
The text reads:
“First Pals: What makes Dad so cool? He’s the swim coach, tent maker, best friend, bike fixer and hug giver—all rolled into one. Or two.” The text at the bottom reads: “Real-life dads, Todd Koch and Cooper Smith with their children Claire and Mason.”
jc penney’s deserves a gold star
or a rainbow one
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Gay Marriage Endorsement of the Day: Same-sex weddings have no legal status in Japan, but that hasn’t stopped Tokyo Disneyland from giving them the OK.
“I wrote 10 years ago that I looked forward to the day when gay and lesbian couples could hold hands and go to Tokyo Disneyland,” said Taiga Ishikawa, Japan’s first openly gay politician. “I’m very happy.”
A full wedding ceremony in Cinderella’s castle, with Mickey and Minnie included on the guest list, costs about $95,000. The park is now accepting applications.
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Gay Marriage Endorsement of the Day: Same-sex weddings have no legal status in Japan, but that hasn’t stopped Tokyo Disneyland from giving them the OK.
“I wrote 10 years ago that I looked forward to the day when gay and lesbian couples could hold hands and go to Tokyo Disneyland,” said Taiga Ishikawa, Japan’s first openly gay politician. “I’m very happy.”
A full wedding ceremony in Cinderella’s castle, with Mickey and Minnie included on the guest list, costs about $95,000. The park is now accepting applications.
I Love My Boo campaign features real young men of color loving each other passionately. Rather than sexualizing gay relationships, this campaign models caring, and highlights the importance of us taking care of each other. Featured throughout New York City, I Love My Boo directly challenges homophobia and encourages all who come across it to critically rethink our notion of love.
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- I saw this article:
- http: //www.huffingtonpost.com/2012/02/29/gay-activists-grandparents-marriage-equality_n_1310537.html
- earlier this afternoon and I got suddenly curious how my 86yo grandmother felt about marriage equality and LGBT rights. Since she's often hilarious, I decided to interview her on the phone and post it here. I put it on speakerphone, recorded it, then transcribed it. She's in Miami, and Cuban-born, so this is translated from Spanish. She's a pretty feisty lady. I want to be her when I grow up. Here's what she said:
- Me: Grandma, what do you think about this couple in their 90s supporting their gay grandkids in the fight for marriage equality?
- Grandma: I think it's very nice. You have to support your family, no matter who they are. You can't reject people for things like that.
- Me: If you had gay or lesbian family, would you do the same?
- Grandma: I don't know if I could make a video like those people. They speak English.
- Me: What about in Spanish? Would you make videos supporting marriage equality in Spanish.
- Grandma: Ay... don't get any ideas. I don't want to make a video.
- Me: But is it okay if I post this on the Internet? On one of my websites
- Grandma: Ignorant people might yell at you.
- Me: Oh, that's okay, I don't mind.
- Grandma: Yes, you can put what I said on the Internet.
- Me: Okay. So do you support gay and lesbian people getting married?
- Grandma: I think gay people should be able to get married. Times have changed. Even my ideas have changed. There used to be a lot of ignorance and rumors about gay people, mostly because they had to live in hiding, you know, you couldn't be yourself out in public like they can be sometimes now. So I think people just made things up. But think gay people should be allowed to live their lives like everyone else.
- Me: Would you go to a gay wedding?
- Grandma: Yes, I would. It would probably be more lively than a regular one. I hate weddings. They're so boring.
- Me: They really are. What do you think about people who protest gay marriage?
- Grandma: Oh. Idiots.
- Me: They're wrong?
- Grandma: Idiots. Dumb people with nothing better to do. Out of all the things to protest. They should be out trying to do some good in the world instead.
- Me: Do you think you would have felt the same way when you were my age?
- Grandma: (Pauses) I don't think I gave it any thought. People didn't talk about these things back then. There was a lot of ignorance. Everybody knew gay people, of course, but people didn't talk about it in normal conversation, much less in public like on the news now. I think that's good. Talking is always good. When people know things, they can make up their own minds.I would like to think that maybe with a little information and thinking about it, I would feel the same way.
- Me: Do you think gay people should be able to adopt kids?
- Grandma: Of course.
- Me: As a Christian, what do you think the Bible says about gay people?
- Grandma: The Bible is very clear that Jesus doesn't care about race or gender or where you came from or anything. He loves everyone.
- Me: What about the parts of the Bible that says gay people should be stoned to death?
- Grandma: We don't stone people to death anymore...
- Me: So you don't think that applies?
- Grandma: I think God gave us some common sense to be able to figure out what parts were meant for forever, like "don't kill" and "don't steal" and "be good to people," and what parts were just a record of the society people lived in back then. We don't hide women in the dark during their periods anymore, either. Things like that.
- Me: What about gays in the military? Do you think that should be allowed?
- Grandma: You know, when I heard President Obama had helped made that legal, I was surprised it already wasn't. If you're willing to pick up a gun and go fight in some war somewhere for my freedom, I'm not willing to do that, so if you are, I don't care if you have a boyfriend or a girlfriend or fifteen cats.
- Me: Yeah, I think most people supported that one.
- Grandma: It's like I told you. God gave us common sense for a reason.
- Me: I know you've had a few close gay male friends. Have you ever had a lesbian friend?
- Grandma: I did in Cuba. She was my neighbor and she did everyone's hair on the block. You couldn't really tell she was a lesbian, but she told me, after many years of knowing her.
- Me: What do you mean by "you couldn't tell she was a lesbian?"
- Grandma: Well, she was very glamorous. She looked like a movie star all the time - that's why she did everyone's hair. Some lesbians, you can tell.
- Me: In English, they call the ability to tell if someone's gay "gaydar." Like "radar" but for "gay."
- Grandma: Oh! I think I have that.
- Me: You think you have good gaydar?
- Grandma: Well, I was an artist, so I was around a lot of gay men. And I can usually tell, but Paula fooled me.
- Me: The slang term for lesbians who are very conventionally feminine in English is "lipstick lesbian."
- Grandma: She did wear lipstick!
- Me: Do you think a lot of older people think like you do?
- Grandma: I think so. A lot of older people keep up with the news better than you think. And you get to be my age and you realize a lot of past mistakes in your thinking. You realize that a lot of things you think mattered, really don't. And the people who don't think like that, it's mostly because they don't know any better. But even at my age, people can be taught.
- Me: Thank you, Pupa.
- Grandma: You should show me your website when you put this up. I hope a lot of people read it.
“How do you teach homosexuality? Is it like French? I was born of heterosexual parents, taught by heterosexual teachers, in a fiercely heterosexual society. So why then am I homosexual? And, no offense meant, if it were true that children mimic their teachers, we’d have a hell of a lot more nuns running around.”
-Harvey Milk, Milk (2008)
- Shy Guy: Hey there.
- Random Guy: Hey, what's up?
- Shy Guy: Nothing much, I just wanted to tell you that you're really cute.
- Random Guy: Thanks dude!
- Shy Guy: So, are you here with anyone?
- Random Guy: Yeah, my girlfriend just went to the washroom.
- Shy Guy: Oh God, I'm sorry, didn't know you were straight!
- Random Guy: That's alright, it's cool.
- Shy Guy: You don't mind me calling you cute?
- Random Guy: A compliment is a compliment no matter who it comes from.
