While the head honchos at the HRC are making 6 figure salaries from donations to support ‘marriage equality’, hundreds of thousands of LGBTQ youth are homeless and are purposely ignored by mainstream gay organizations. The ‘fight’ for same sex marriage has proven to be a profitable business for gay ‘non-profit’ businesses, so it’s no wonder why gay marriage overshadows all other LGBTQ issues. After all, helping the needy results in smaller pay.
Supporting gay marriage doesn’t mean you support the queer struggle. In fact, most ‘allies’ and even a large portion of more fortunate queers don’t know the facts about LGBTQ homelessness, violence against trans* people, high unemployment, discrimination, etc, nor do they bother to research it. They are just concerned about their favorite gay celebrities being able to tie the knot.
If you care about the queer struggle, take a minute of your day to familiarize yourself with some of the disturbing statistics:
- 20- 40% of homeless youth are LGBTQ. In comparison, the general youth population is only 3-10% LGBTQ.
- LGBTQ youth are twice as likely to experience sexual abuse before the age of 12.
- LGBTQ youth, once homeless, are at higher risk for victimization, mental health problems, and unsafe sexual practices. 58.7% of LGBTQ homeless youth have been sexually victimized compared to 33.4% of heterosexual homeless youth
- LGBTQ youth are roughly 7.4 times more likely to experience acts of sexual violence than heterosexual homeless youth
- LGBTQ homeless youth commit suicide at higher rates (62%) than heterosexual homeless youth (29%)
- At least 20% of ALL transgender people will be homeless sometime in their life.
- 29% of transgender people reported being turned away from a homeless shelter due to their transgender status.
Please consider taking action to help combat LGBTQ homelessness. I suggest making a donation to the Ali Forney Center or volunteering at your local LGBTQ homeless shelter.
I will always plug GLBT Advocacy & Youth Services every time a post like this comes across my dashboard. It is a new organization but is making enormous strides in North Alabama, and also includes a host home program for youth caught in the 18/19 age gap that can financially ruin so many queer youth. (In the state of Alabama, you are not legally recognized as an adult until you are nineteen years old, meaning that if you are kicked out of your house by your parents at age eighteen, you can’t sign a lease on an apartment.)
Reblogging for the commentary and to add a list of LGBTQ homeless shelters and support services. If you know of any other states/cities/towns with LGBTQ shelters, please add on to the list with a link.
REAL Lesbians React to Lesbian Porn!
I’m laughing so hard oh my god
Seriously though, “lesbian porn” is marketed towards men. I’ve laughed and cried and screamed, “WHY WOULD YOU DO THAT?!” at the shit that I’ve seen. Not sexy, and also not real.
“Mother,” I slowly repeated in Korean. “I am not a boy. I am a girl. I am transgender.” My face reddened, and tears blurred my vision. I braced myself for her rejection and the end to a relationship that had only begun.
Silence again filled the room. I searched my mother’s eyes for any signs of shock, disgust or sadness. But a serene expression lined her face as she sat with ease on the couch. I started to worry that my words had been lost in translation. Then my mother began to speak.
“Mommy knew,” she said calmly through my friend, who looked just as dumbfounded as I was by her response. “I was waiting for you to tell me.”
“Birth dream,” my mother replied. In Korea some pregnant women still believe that dreams offer a hint about the gender of their unborn child. “I had dreams for each of your siblings, but I had no dream for you. Your gender was always a mystery to me.”
I wanted to reply but didn’t know where to begin. My mother instead continued to speak for both of us. “Hyun-gi,” she said, stroking my head. “You are beautiful and precious. I thought I gave birth to a son, but it is OK. I have a daughter instead.”"
such a beautiful story. as a queer person, waiting is filled with anxiety about what to say, how much of myself and my life would i be able to reveal? the fear of rejection is so huge, but i also desperately want my family to know me, my life, my trials, my triumphs.
i just want to look into someone’s eyes and see myself, feel like i look like someone, like i can see where i came from. i want to know if i am an oppa or hyung.
i want to know if i had a name.
i have heard all the stories, all the possibilities from bad to good that can happen when you find your birth family. but this…this is the best. the absolute best.
This gave me chills. This is wonderful.
This is such an incredible story. I wish every trans person could have this support from their family. Warning though, I definitely got misty with this story.
WOW THIS IS REALLY NICE
This is pretty much exactly what happened with me and a friend. I was like, “Yeah, I know. So anyway…”
[A complicated Venn diagram depicting multiple overlapping categories of features regarded as constituting “biological sex,” meant to illustrate that sex is not nearly as binary as many people like to think.]
#holy shit this appeared in my dash and I thought it was modern art but no it’s freaking sex!
For everyone who thinks sex is only about “vaginas” and “penises” (especially those who use it against trans* and intersex folk)
Fox News headlines v. real headlines, part 2425183.
The brunette part is really important.
1. Woooo You go Mary Gonzalez! Fuck yeah!
2. Oh Fuck you Fox News.
Holla to Mary Gonzalez for coming out as Pansexual in such a bigoted state as Texas. God speed to you, people aren’t friendly here.
Is it lame that I feel all teary because of this?
There’s a lot of information out there about how to find a gay-friendly university - but what about transgender-friendly? Campus Pride’s got your back.
They’ve compiled a list of the 10 best schools for trans students, using information about schools’ trans-inclusive nondiscrimination policies, gender neutral facilities, procedures for official name and gender marker changes, recognizing trans people on official forms and covering hormones and surgery in student health insurance.
The full list, in alphabetical order:
- Ithaca College
- Princeton University
- UC Riverside
- University of Massachusetts, Amherst
- University of Michigan, Ann Arbor
- University of Oregon
- University of Pennsylvania
- University of Vermont
You can learn more about each individual school at the link above. Does anyone go to any of these schools who can talk about their experience? Anybody go to a school that’s not on the list that is particularly trans-friendly?
Literally sobbing at the beautiful.
I’m crying SO HARD right now.
*blubber* Oh gosh, so much happy in one go! Overwhelmingly beautiful!
LGBTQ* News You Might Have Missed
(Following from ABC News)
Jim Henson’s Muppets Split With Chick-Fil-A Over Gay Rights
Customers going to Chick-fil-A in search of a Muppets-inspired toy along with their Chick-n-Strips will be greatly disappointed. The toys are no more. The Jim Henson Company, founded by the creator of The Muppets, has severed all ties with Chick-fil-A and announced on its Facebook page that “we do not wish to partner with them on any future endeavors.”
The Jim Henson Company had formed a partnership with Chick-fil-A at the beginning of summer in order to feature Jim Henson’s Creature Shop toys in kids’ meals from July until Aug. 18. Then, Chick-fil-A’s president, Dan McCarthy, announced his support of Christian organizations that oppose gay marriage.
In an interview with The Baptist Press earlier this month, McCarthy was upfront: “We are very much supportive of the family — the biblical definition of the family unit. We are a family-owned business, a family-led business, and we are married to our first wives. We give God thanks for that,” said McCarthy.
A report from the LGBT advocacy group Equality Matters said that Chick-fil-A donated more than $3 million from 2003 to 2009 to Christian groups that oppose homosexuality. The company then escalated its donations, giving $2 million to such causes in 2010 alone, according to Equality Matters.
On its Facebook page, The Jim Henson Company mentions its CEO, Lisa Henson, as a “strong supporter of gay marriage.”
Do you see this?
Do you see the number of things that are WRONG with this?
The fake slur, the beat up face, the TAG LINE.
You know what this movie is? It’s speaking to every single fucking straightie (yes I just made that word up and it implies exactly the correct tone of condescension that I need right now) who feels ~*so*~ oppressed by queer people, ~*so victimized*~, and most importantly so threatened by our existence, by our refusal to shut up, by our refusal to disappear, by our insistence on our rights, by our celebration of ourselves. Well fuck you.
And don’t even get me started on the tag line. “How would you live if you couldn’t love?” I wonder— OH WAIT. OH. FUCKING. WAIT. WOW. GEE. I JUST HAVE NO IDEA IT’S NOT LIKE THAT’S ACTUALLY HAPPENING RIGHT NOW TO REAL PEOPLE.
I’m so fucking incensed. Maybe you should feel threatened. Maybe queer people are coming for you. We’re coming for your cushy straight heteronormative lifestyle and nothing about your shitty world is ever going to be the same.
I’m not trying to defend this because if that is the intentions, that is so fucked up.
But I think it’s trying to encourage empathy from straight people. Making the characters straight supposedly make them more relateable. It’s trying to force straight people into our uncomfortably tight shoes.
It’s trying to make people see how fucking extreme and RIDICULOUS our struggles are because it’s easy to dismiss when it’s happening to some “other” type of person, it’s not so easy to when happens to someone just like “them.”
It’s trying to force straight people into being considerate.
I’ve seen a short with this EXACT premise before SHOWN ON LOGO, THE QUEER TV STATION.
It’s inverting a trope to demonstrate how ridiculous and awful it is that it happens.
JC Penney’s new ad for Father’s Day
The text reads:
“First Pals: What makes Dad so cool? He’s the swim coach, tent maker, best friend, bike fixer and hug giver—all rolled into one. Or two.” The text at the bottom reads: “Real-life dads, Todd Koch and Cooper Smith with their children Claire and Mason.”
jc penney’s deserves a gold star
or a rainbow one
Gay Marriage Endorsement of the Day: Same-sex weddings have no legal status in Japan, but that hasn’t stopped Tokyo Disneyland from giving them the OK.
“I wrote 10 years ago that I looked forward to the day when gay and lesbian couples could hold hands and go to Tokyo Disneyland,” said Taiga Ishikawa, Japan’s first openly gay politician. “I’m very happy.”
A full wedding ceremony in Cinderella’s castle, with Mickey and Minnie included on the guest list, costs about $95,000. The park is now accepting applications.
I Love My Boo campaign features real young men of color loving each other passionately. Rather than sexualizing gay relationships, this campaign models caring, and highlights the importance of us taking care of each other. Featured throughout New York City, I Love My Boo directly challenges homophobia and encourages all who come across it to critically rethink our notion of love.
GMHC is the world’s first and leading provider of HIV/AIDS prevention, care and advocacy. Building on decades of dedication and expertise, we understand the reality of HIV/AIDS and empower a healthy life for all. GMHC fights to end the AIDS epidemic and uplift the lives of all affected.
“How do you teach homosexuality? Is it like French? I was born of heterosexual parents, taught by heterosexual teachers, in a fiercely heterosexual society. So why then am I homosexual? And, no offense meant, if it were true that children mimic their teachers, we’d have a hell of a lot more nuns running around.”
-Harvey Milk, Milk (2008)